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HI Maggie, how is it going today?

Hello Jsk and Tubester, I am doing great, well not right now cause i'm a work but other than that, I"m good. Tubey, I'm glad to hear you're doing good with out her. You go with your bad self and find a better girl. There's plenty out there you just have to find where she's hidding.

Hey Blondie, how's it going.

Vincent, not at all. You see, I don't link it through the site files. I actually load the show into a media file online that holds it in a folder. From there I go to an other site to load it into a flash player, from there I get the html code to put on here. The reason why it doesn't work right now you're probly thinkin, is because the other day during my lunch break I was loading the new show when I decided to experiment with other stuff. I erased the file and didn't have enough time to load it up. Hopefully by tomorrow or sat it will be up again. Although hopefully during my vacation in September I plan to redo the whole site little by little. When I first made it I didn't have that much time to put together so much in so little time. So if you notice on the catalog when you click the pics it takes you to a diff blank page. It's not supposed to, I made the pics into thumbnails and yes that does take up bandwidth. So hopefully when i redo the site and redo the catalog I will have lots more room, not that we dont' have enough, but lots more room to add more media to the site. Pics, shows, videos, etc.

Maggie i am  seeing this women that is great but her 3 kids are bad news! They try to break us up and are just plain bad. Should i cut my loses now before it's to late? I have told her about this problem but she says kids will be kids, i can't take it anymore. They range from ages 10-14.

Mr. Cortez, you have to think about yourself other than others sometimes. If you really can't take it anymore do what you have to do to be happy. You only live once in "this" lifetime. You want to be happy, live, learn, and laugh with out any problems. If it really bothers you that much, then I'd head out to reality and find someone else. But you have to also think that these kids have a father, and believe no one else can take his place. That is probly the main reasons they are brats towards you. They take you as a trespasser, violating their rules. If you really love this girl and see yourself with her for the rest of your life, then tough it out, and show them who's boss. They aren't always going to be living with her. She's ganna need someone, right. They need to understand that. Like I said before, do what your heart desires, and be happy. Remeber that karma is always there as well, what these kids are doing to you all, they might be going through when they get married, or whatever in their adult years. So don't worry, and just do what your gut tells you. You'll be alright either way.

Whitney, I kinda see your point there. In that situation I really wouldn't think much of it. Well, I lied, I would. In a way you should not be so disgusted with it. At least they aren't blood related. If you don't feel comfortable in this situation then I advise you to move on, cause it's just ganna get weirder for you if you're mother is really into your kinda bf's dad. Since you're not fully dating him i assume since you put kidda seeing him, it shouldn't be so hard for you to move on. But then again if you really like the guy then put the thought aside. You really have to think to yourself where you're ganna be years from now. What if your mom marries that guy and you marry your guy, but what if you have kids, then your guy will not only be the father but the step uncle, so on so forth, so yeah I see your point of how weird it would be, but he wouldn't actually be a blood uncle. So it's really up to you and how you feel. If you don't feel right in that relationship do what is going to make you happy. Don't worry what other's think, It's your life, live it how you want to.

CC girl , first off let me just say that I'm sorry that I over looked your question and am late on the answering. Second, I think that is just a cheap way to get to see you. When I had finally pulled the plug on my ex he did the same exact thing. I broke up with him, then two weeks later he calls and tells me he wants everything he gave me and his stuff back. I said ok. I gathered all his crap, put it in a black trash bag, and waited for him to come. He came, I did not let him in, he took the bag and the next night, he calls me crying that he had finally realized how much he cared. But that was a bunch of crock. If I were you, and if you're trying to move on with your life, give the boy his stuff back so he can stop cryin about it. Cause if you don't, he'll keep buggin you. And if any case he does pull what my ex pulls don't fall for it, just suck it up and move on. You have your own life to worry about, not his.

Hello Speedy, I don't see why she should get mad. Money means a lot now a days, any little bit helps. Just look at the rising gas prices, along with the milk headen to almost $5 a gallon. You earned that money, go confront him and let him know in a nice manner that you were considerate enough to lend a dead beat money in the first place, and that you would now like your money back. Don't worry if your wife gets upset. She'll get over it, and she should understand the situation and should not pick sides, and go by facts. So don't worry and go get your dead beat money back. LoL. It's rightfully yours, so don't hold back. And if you don't feel right about your wife, let her know how you feel about the situation. I have a brother that borrows money all the time from me. He has a tendancy not to remember to pay back even though he tells me a certain date. I don't tell him anything to see if he remembers, and when he doesn't I tell my mom, and my mom usually does the yellin. LoL, no but I do confront him and let him know about it. Then he acts like he forgot, and gives it back to me, sometimes with interest. LOL. Good  luck.

I been reading your colum most of the day and just want to say your really good at this stuff Maggie. When i got a problem i am going to drop by and let you help me solve it!

I'm so sorry to those who have posted questions. I didn't see them till now. Plus it didn't help that i've been out of town almost the whole month. And thanks to those who have left flattering comments.OK, I'm here now so lets get started.


Lefty, How is it that you suspect such a thing? Are they getting offly (I don't know if I spelled that right, sorry it looks weird, anyways..) close? And honestly if you were to ask either of them the answer from both would probly be no, just to avoid complication with their relationship with you. Investigate more before you ask any questions. Follow the signs that they give off. If they seem like sexual, sensual, or flirty then maybe there might be something there. But keep in mind that most people are like that in personality without meaning it in that way. I have noticed a lot of guys that like to play like that, most don't really see what they are doing because that is just the way they are. And if you really want to get down and dirty I say you head to your girlfriend first. Ask her about the situation. If she really cares that much about you, then she shouldn't give you attitude on the subject. It's ganna be either a yes, or a no. And that's that. If she struggles around the question then maybe she is lying to you, so keep that in mind also. Beware of the signs though. If there is nothing happening then there shouldn't be a problem with her saying the truth, right? She also shouldn't get mad at you for asking that question, it's simple and might seem like an accusation, but truth be told she shouldn't get mad if she doesn't have anything going on with him. I'd take the chance and ask her though. I wouldn't like to be in that situation, I'd come out straight and ask, whether they like it or not. Remember, people come in and out of your life always, and there is plenty fish in the sea just incase it is true. So hang in there and good luck.

Maggie Help! My gf and i recently moved in together and i like to keep things ALOT neater than she does. How can we work this problem out without causing to much drama?

Maggie i got a problem this girl asked for my number a few weeks ago and she never called me. Should i track her down? I thought she was interested in me.

Maggie i asked my girlfriend of 3 years to marry me, and she said "I don't know". How will i know when it's time to try again?

Awwwe, that was so s-w-e-e-t! Wow, three years huh. Hope you didn't throw the ring at her. LOL, *coughs, Carlos*. Hehe, no but honestly some girls take time to answer. The reason being, some are insecure of themselves, some are afraid of change, and some, well some have other thoughts poundin around. Like finishing a task first, finding an established job, finding security before the big "Yes" word comes, and the fear of not ever dating an other guy again. Wow, that thought never went across my head when I got proposed to. The first thing I thought when he gave me my ring was, "Ummm, what a pretty ring. What is it for?" Took him a minute or two to actually ask the question, after I told him, lol. It's ok Car, I still love you. Have you asked her why she said "I don't know?" You probly wouldnt' wanna know, but it beats, beating around the bush. If she really loves you she'll come around, just give her time, marriage is a "Hugemongus" change in one's life. Maybe she hasn't had time to actually realize that you really meant it. Don't ask constantly, because if she keeps saying she's unsure then I'd worry bout that. I mean it doesn't necessarily mean something is going on, just take it as a sign if she does keep it up. Things happen for a reason. And it takes time to actually realize what that reason is. So just have hope, and hopefully she'll come around soon.

hey maggie my parents dnt want me talkin to this fantastic guy and i like him alot. hes so great. wut should i do?