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Date: Apr 24, 2007

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Date: Apr 24, 2007

Hi Maggie let me start by saying i love the colum, its a great idea. I need advice. me and my boyfriend go out with his friends alot. Well the problem is that i am very uncomfortable with one of his friends that is always trying to touch me and flirt with me. I told my guy but he does not believe that his friend would do something like that. What do i do about this sitution? Please send some helpful info my way.

Date: Apr 24, 2007

I got a question. I love to sing but i am shy to get up in front of a large crowd any tips to get overy my fear?

Date: Apr 24, 2007

Nina wrote:

Maggie let me start my saying i love the colum. I am 15 yo fan from Mississippi. I have a question I have a crush on a guy in my class any tips for how to get his attention?

Nina 1st off thank you for your interest in the column. Ok, here we go, by any chance do you talk to him at all? Ok, whether you do or don't try to grab his attention more often. Try talking to him more often so that way he can know that you are interested. Ask him if he would like to go to a movie or something sometime. Or if you really don't know him, do what I did when I was your age. Tell a friend that you like him and let them go blab it off. LoL, you know that really actually worked. You at least found out whether he was interested or if you should just forget about him. But seriously, try talking to him, flirt, toss a note to him here and there, talk about your interests, see what he is interested in as well. Don't be shy, but don't give in to easily either. Ask him for paper or pens here and there to get his attention in class. You know little things. Try buddying up with him during class projects. Bump into him purposely in the hall ways. Heh, I'm getting flash backs now. Anyways, In an earlier post on I think page one of this column there are tips on dating boys as well, I thought it was interesting if you haven't read it yet. But most of all girly don't be shy, be yourself, and don't try to be something your not, cause if you do it's just ganna come around and bite you in neck. smile

Date: Apr 24, 2007

Alexis wrote:

Maggie I have a weird question but here goes: I like my friends bf, well have a crush on him. I would never hurt her and do anything with him. Does this makes me a bad person, to have these thought?

Alexis, no it does not make you a bad person at all. We are only human. If a person is beautiful or handsome they are bound to grab attention whether it be a stranger or someone you know. Just don't tell your friend though, keep your thoughts to yourself, because you can't be sure on how she might react to this. Try directing your attention in a different direction. I'm pretty sure he isn't the only boy out there, right. Try finding someone else that you can be interested in so that way your crush doesn't exceed to an obsession. Then there will be problems. So don't worry about your thoughts, it's ok to have crushes, even if it is your friends boyfriend. Just don't let it be more than that, let it only be just a thought. Remember, friends are forever, and you don't want to lose one for that reason. aww

Date: Apr 24, 2007

Jacob DL wrote:

Hi Maggie i been seeing a girl for about 2 weeks. Her birthday is this weekend. What are some good gift ideas???

Jacob DL, since you've only been dating her for a short period you don't want to go over board and buy her all these expensive things. So believe it or not most girls love stuffed animals. Maybe a couple of pink roses with a teddy bear and a card. That's cute. Some of us gals love jewlery, but you don't want to spend to much on that, so hopefully she likes silver. biggrin maybe some silver earrings or a silver necklace. Some girls love chocolate. That's my weakness. LoL. How about a mix CD of pure love songs. Depending on what style of music she likes, there are tons of good ones out there. Some perfume or Body spray. I myself love bodyspray just cause I think it lasts longer than most perfumes. I think the best body sprays are the ones from Victoria Secret and I buy one (I think it's called sugar apple fantasy or something like that) from Wal-Mart and always get yummy compliments about them :). Or you can also put together a basket of lil things that interest her, like things she can use. But I really think that she will like anything that you give her, especailly if it's going to remind her of you later on, it's the thought that counts right.

Date: Apr 24, 2007

Da Real Tube Steak wrote:

Maggie, my second date is coming up, i took her to see her a horror flick this weekend and she says she liked it but i kinda know she didnt dig the blood and guts to much. My question is what type of movies are females into? Any good movies playing right now you would recommend? Look forward to your response. Gracias

Hey tubster, yeah not much of us girls "love" those types of movies. But that doesn't mean that we don't "like" them. I guess it depends on the story line and the person. This is the wrong question for me man. I can go on and on and on but I'll do you the favor and cut it sweet and short. Most of us love and I mean love romantic movies. Especailly those with the hotties in them. We can also go for the comedies, drama, and most horror flix "most". Let me give you a list of what good movies are playing this weekend that I think she would like. Oh, and remember just cause most of the films might be chic flix doesn't mean that you "macho" men don't like them. And don't try denying it either. LoL. Anyways, here it goes. Kickin' It Old Skool (I so did not misspell that) with Jamie Kennedy looks funny, Next with Nicolas Cage looks interesting, In the Land of Women with Adam Brody looks good, Are we done yet with Ice Cube looks funny, Vacancy with Luke Wilson looks interesting, and last but not least that Disturbia movie looks good. So it's your choice from here. They all look great. Especially In the Land of Women, but I don't know if you wan to go totally Chic flick or not. Well hope that helped :)

Date: Apr 24, 2007

Miro wrote:

Maggie any tips on cutting down on my partying? I really need to concentrate on school.
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Miro, yeah why don't you think of your future. Concentrate on your school work more often. Remember that partying will always be there and school is more important. Try focusing on something else that grabs your attention. Umm, why don't you take up a hobby, so that way you have time for school and that as well. And no, drinking is not a hobby , it's for recreation. LoL, but if you really want to cut down on partying you need to believe in yourself. You can stop if you want to and you know that. But you see your friends doing it and that brings on the pressure. Now, It's ok to party, but why don't you just try doing it occasionally instead of every chance that you get. That's really up to you, just remember that school is very important, especailly if you want a good job to support a good life, and partying ain't ganna get you there. :) Good luck, I know that wasn't much info. but I hope I helped a little.

Date: Apr 24, 2007

Lil Sis wrote:

Maggie i am 13 years old. I want to make a myspace but my parents don't let me. They say i am too young for that stuff. Any ideas how to change their minds??

Lil Sis, hey mamas, your ganna hate me for this but I can really agree with them on their part. But just on the worrying part. Yes, you are young and they worry cause there are a lot of perverts out there preying on little girls. I know that you are a preteen and you're almost to 15, but of course It's only normal for a parent to protect their child. Now, I don't know if this will work, but maybe if they feel safer, maybe they can monitor your account for you so that way they won't worry so much, but I don't know if you will like that. I have cousins your age with accounts, but their mother has one also and she monitors there spaces all the time. You see, I don't see anything wrong with adding all your friends, bands, tv shows, etc to your friends list, but you have to understand myspace has those people that ruin it for young ones like you or even us to get on there, just because of the content they put up on it. For example there are some accounts with guns, talking about death, there are some pornographic spaces and just those old guys lurkin around for young prey like yourself. Believe me hunny, I get those dumb messages from guys on there all the time asking me perverted questions even from girls! So yes I can understand where your parents are coming from, but like I said maybe you can show them around myspace, and asure them that you'll be extra carefull and not pay any attention to anyone but your friends on there, and maybe they can monitor it until they think it's ok for you to be on there. Just try talking to them about it, tell them how you feel about this, and hopefully they will give in. Sorry if I didn't help that much ma, hope everything goes well for you. And if it doesn't just remember that you'll always have friends on here biggrin

Date: Apr 24, 2007

conjuntoblondie101 wrote:

Props on your colum Maggie, it's all very useful advice. I got a question I like a guy but i got a jerk for a boyfriend. What do you i do? I should just dump the jerk right? I am just kinda affraid that the guy i have a crush on might be seeing someone else already. I am just so confused.

Blondie, dump him while you have the chance. If you're not treated with the respect that you deserve he does not deserve you. I mean why would any one want to live a life that they are not happy with . And when your not happy you need to try to make it happy. Like I've said before I've been through all this before but probly worse than that. If you do brake it off with him and your crush does have someone else don't worry about it. Things happen for reasons. If you feel unsecure about your crush and are afraid to be alone, which you probly are right? I know I was, but anyways try talking to your crush first before breaking it off. That's actually how I got the courage after 4 years to get rid of my jerk of an ex. You see I met my crush online and talked to him for about 2-3 months before breaking it off with the ex. My crush actually helped me through it and gave me the dignity I needed to proceed with it. Look at us now, it's been almost five years, we are engaged and are very very happy. So I say just talk to your crush first if that makes you feel better, before actually breaking it off with your bf. But honestly I'd break up with him anyways. Remember good things come to those who wait. And I waited my whole life for mine up until 5 years ago :)

Date: Apr 24, 2007

Mary wrote:

Maggie my Man pays more attention to his sports games on tv than me! How can i get his attention?

HOUSTON WE HAVE A PROBLEM!!! LoL, taking sports away from a guy is like taking a bone away from a dog. It ain't ganna happen. Believe me hunny, I get steamed when football season comes around. Don't get me wrong, I love sports but come on. I actually learned to work my way around it. I go out with my mom to the stores, or to the movies and try to kill as much time possible, hopeing by the time I get home the game will be over. Anyways, why don't you talk to him about it. Try working something out. Buy him a VCR and a blank tape, and tell him to record it. (I don't actually think that will work) put on some lingerie and lure him away, hehe. OK, YOU'VE STUMPED ME ON THIS ONE! I can't even get mine away from it. I guess if you can't beat them join them right. I actually make him take me to a girlie movie when he does that. That makes him suffer for a bit, heh. So i say talk to him about how you feel about it. And if he doesn't want to leave his sports, just do your own thing. Maybe it'll kill some time for you. Or you can cancel his cable and see what happens next. LoL, humm, I think I should practice what I preach. :)

Date: Apr 24, 2007

Megan wrote:

Hi Maggie let me start by saying i love the colum, its a great idea. I need advice. me and my boyfriend go out with his friends alot. Well the problem is that i am very uncomfortable with one of his friends that is always trying to touch me and flirt with me. I told my guy but he does not believe that his friend would do something like that. What do i do about this sitution? Please send some helpful info my way.

Megan, I can't believe that he doesn't believe you. That's not cool. You need to keep telling him this until you get the point across to him. Try telling that other guy to back off as well. Tell him (your bf's friend) how you feel about the situation. And if he doesn't listen and keeps doing those things to you, stop going out with them. Refuse to go with your bf and his friends until he listens to you and takes action on this. Why are you going to stay put in a situation where you feel uncomfortable? If he still doesn't believe you, then you really have to start thinking about your relationship. I know that it is his friend and of course he's not going to want to believe that "his friend" is hitting on his girl. The thing is that you really have to put in all you got to make him believe what you say is true, or start thinking of finding yourself a new relationship. I know that's probly not good advice to you, but why are you going to be with someone that is not going to believe you every time something happens to you, especially something like that. Turn the table around and see how you would handle that situation. If I were him, I'd actually confront my friend and just ask him nicely what and why he was doing those things to you. I mean yes it's ok to stick up for your friends but come on, you have your limits too.

Date: Apr 24, 2007

Puro Party wrote:

I got a question. I love to sing but i am shy to get up in front of a large crowd any tips to get overy my fear?

Puro Party, face your fears it's the only way to get rid of them. I mean what's the worse thing that could happen? You won't know until you try. Ok, I'm a shy person, well I was a shy person, I'm not that shy anymore, but anyways a couple of years ago I was a presenter at the South Texas Conjunto Awards, and my partner (no names) chickened out on me and I had to go up there alone infront of hundreds of people and speak aloud with someone else I didn't even know. And you know what, that day I actually conquered my fear and felt pretty darn good. Another time I went on some skill builder thingy with the college I went to. Well they had this fear factor type theme going on and one of there things was to sing infront of everyone for at least 30seconds. OMG, now if you've listened to Conjunto Impact lately you heard the way I sing and that's not a pretty site. LoL. But I thought to myself to hell with everyone else, and sang twinkle twinkle little star in front of about 25 students. So you just have to try. Have confidence in yourself. Not everyone is a good singer, but yet I've heard a few that have made it out there. Well I guess you can always pull the old "picture everyone in their undies" routine, but a lot of times it's not so pretty, lol. Why don't you try to go to small scenes first, like a local bar or place that offer karaoke (I know I probly spelled that wrong) so that way you can get the feel for it first, or maybe even small family parties. But really don't be afraid, if you really love to sing, get your booty up on that stage and sing your heart out. Who cares if you get a boo here or there (which you probly wouldn't, but that's like worse case senario) at least you accomplished something. Your first step to confidence in yourself and possibly your first step to a great career or hobby.

Date: Apr 25, 2007

Hi Maggie thanks for your response. I know it's wrong that he does not believe me but oh well. Anyways I am not going to hangout with that guy anymore. I am not going to be stressed out over it. Thanks once again.

Date: Apr 25, 2007

My question is that a guy at work is very annoying. He just won't shutup. I try to be nice and listen to him go on and on and on but he never stops! How can i put an end to this without hurting his feelings? I got work to do too LOL. Thanks Maggie look forward to hearing from you!

Date: Apr 25, 2007

Maggie, Hi. I need some advice ok? I met this really nice guy. Probelm is He is a clown. A real life Clown. He insists on wearing his clown gear most of the time we go out. He says it's "because he is on call" you see his friends and him work as clowns. There are 3 of them, and they take turns doing partys and such. We live in a big city so they are always busy i will say that. It's just i am tired of going to the mall and having people look at us funny. He is a great guy, but i am kinda bothered by this. HELP!

Date: Apr 25, 2007

Thank you Maggie! I know your right about the dumping him part my friends tell me the same things. I need to get the courage to do it and move on and maybe even hook-up with my crush down the line. My crush does not have a gf i found out so i am kinda happy about that smile

. Thanks Maggie i will talk to you soon. Bug Hug for you smile

Date: Apr 25, 2007

HEY BLONDIE, YOU ARE SO VERY WELCOME, HOPEFULLY EVERYTHING GOES GOOD FOR YOU. :)

Date: Apr 25, 2007

Maggie Next week is my boss's birthday will i look like a kiss-ass if i buy something for them. The truth is they are really nice to me and i just wanted to show them i appreciate that.

Date: Apr 25, 2007

I need help what should i buy for my boyfriend for his birthday? What do guys like Maggie? Help?

Date: Apr 25, 2007

Maggie hey how do i solve this problem? My Neighbor is always playing his annoying music really loud at all hours of the night. I have told him about it and he lowers it for a little while, then its back up again. Should i call the cops? I don't like to cause this type of problems but some of us work in the morning.

Date: Apr 25, 2007

Hey Maggie thanks for the advice. I guess it's going to be chick flicks this weekend for the tubster. That one with Ice cube or whatever looks funny. That one with Adam brody looks good too. Thanks i will let you know how it goes smile

Date: Apr 25, 2007

Maggie hey what is the best place to take a date for the first time? Something fancy? Or something cute like a picnick?

Date: Apr 25, 2007

Hey everyone, sorry I haven't gotten to your questions yet, but surely by lunch, well my lunch around 1 tomorrow, I will answer them. My internet connection keeps going on and off, so when I get to the shop tomorrow I will try to get to as many of you as I can, promise. :) goodnight.

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Maggie I have this nagging flu for 2 weeks already! I got a big date on Saturday night any advice to help me prepare for big date?

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Maggie, i need some advice. I was going to my gf's birthday party this weekend but my bestfriend invited me to a Spurs playoff game! If it was any other game i would miss it but it's da Playoffs! What should i do? I really want to go to the game and birthday party's aren't really my thing, but it is my girl so you know, Help me pleasse!!!!!

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Maggie I like a girl from work but she is seeing another co-worker, but i saw him cheating on her with another women. Should i tell her?

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Great colum, how did how did you come up with the idea to help others?

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Maggie i ran over my 6yo daughters cat on acident. Should i tell her the truth or lie and say it ran away? confused

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Maggie i coach 7-10 years olds on a baseball team. Some of the parents are really annoying at games and always yelling instructions to their kids. I am the coach not them. I don't want them getting confused on what to do. Am i in my right to tell the parents something? If so what or how do i tell them?

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Hi maggie, just wanted to say hi. hope your well and keep the colum going it helped me and i am sure it is helping so many other who sometimes just need some direction. biggrin

Big Hug to you

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Melons wrote:

My question is that a guy at work is very annoying. He just won't shutup. I try to be nice and listen to him go on and on and on but he never stops! How can i put an end to this without hurting his feelings? I got work to do too LOL. Thanks Maggie look forward to hearing from you!

Melons, I'm sorry to hear that. LoL, know I'm starting to think I'm like that guy at work. Haha! You see, alot of times when I want to be in a deep trance of thought I block out everything that is going on around me. I don't do it to be rude or anything but when I'm like that, they know at work to not bother me. Especially right now. OMG!lol. Why don't you try talking to him about it. Just put it nicely. Say, "Hey not to be rude or anything, but can you please shut the" heh, you thought I was going to go on right. No really try telling him that you would like to talk to him to hear what he has to say, but maybe an other time. Try letting him know that you are busy and would like to do your work. Don't be afraid to let him know how you feel about him annoying you. He needs to know. It could be that he doesn't even know that he is a bother to you. And if you don't want to tell him try blocking him out and keep to yourself and maybe he'll take the hint. Last but not least why don't you let your boss know how you feel about the situation, maybe they can move you elsewhere, where you can do your work and not worry about a thing.

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Zan wrote:

Maggie, Hi. I need some advice ok? I met this really nice guy. Probelm is He is a clown. A real life Clown. He insists on wearing his clown gear most of the time we go out. He says it's "because he is on call" you see his friends and him work as clowns. There are 3 of them, and they take turns doing partys and such. We live in a big city so they are always busy i will say that. It's just i am tired of going to the mall and having people look at us funny. He is a great guy, but i am kinda bothered by this. HELP!

Zan, first thing first. Do not, ever, worry about what other people think about you. Everyone is different in unique ways. If you like a guy you are going to like him for who he is not what he is, right? Think about it this way, it doesn't bother him cause he enjoys making people laugh, cause he's a clown. "But" if it really bothers you that much, tell him about it. Maybe you all can make some sort of a compromise about this. Maybe he can have his clown gear in his car, and when on call he can just dress on the way. You know things like that. Just tell him how you feel about it and don't be afraid of hurting him in anyway. He'll hopefully understand, knowing that you aren't used to that lifestyle. So yeah, talk to him about it before you keep thinking about it more and more, but also remember you are with him for a reason, and I'm pretty sure it's not for the clown suit, right? (I know that kinda sounded bad but I didn't mean it that way. :) )

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Jake The Snake wrote:

Maggie Next week is my boss's birthday will i look like a kiss-ass if i buy something for them. The truth is they are really nice to me and i just wanted to show them i appreciate that.

Jake, no not at all. Like I said previously don't worry what other people think about you. If they do think you are a kiss-ass, then let them. Shrug them off, and go on your way. Think about it this way you made somebody's day. (Ok, I really didn't mean to put this into a poem, yikes). Anyways, I would definatly buy my boss something, she's the best. She bought everyone in the office good gifts for secretaries day, even though we're not secretaries, how cool is that. So really don't worry about what others think, just know that at least this kiss ass is generous, and remember if one good deed is done one will come your way. :)

Date: Apr 26, 2007

Lilly wrote:

I need help what should i buy for my boyfriend for his birthday? What do guys like Maggie? Help?

Lilly, LoL, they like EVERYTHING! Let's see I usually stick to cakes, clothing, watches, dvd's, wallets, caps, food, MP3 players (there are some cheap ones that are good out there), and omg here it goes, mine loves ps2 games. That's just my opinion, what does he like? Like I said in an earlier post, I love to put a basket together of some of his favorite things, like magazines, snacks, dvds, cologne, etc. and at least he gets good use out of it. Well I hope that helped a bit, I tried not to give you expensive stuff, so if your on a budget like me then you can afford most of those things that I listed. They like anything, so go with what you want to give him. :)