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Date: Feb 11, 2010

RE: Ask Maggie!

Date: Jun 10, 2010

Maggie, i got a question.

I am 50 years old. My family does not like my new boyfriend. They think he is goofy and refuse to have him around. They want me to come alone.

I do not have the heart to tell him that he is not invited to my family's house because no one likes him. I am tired of making up excuses for why he is not included.

If my family really got to know him they would like him. He comes from a good family, he does not drink and believes in God. When I am with him I feel good about myself. We like doing the same things and he makes me laugh. I have never been closer to anyone in my life. We supported each other when his father and my mother died.

My sister wanted me to come help clean out my mother's things and she told me to leave my boyfriend home because no one likes him She doesn't care how I feel. He was eager to help. I told him it was canceled. What should I do?

Date: Jun 15, 2010

*Sorry for the tardiness. I have been working super long days since February.*

Hi Woman in need of advice wink

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You're a 50 yr old woman that should "not" have to be taking orders of anyone else but "yourself." I honestly would not listen to them, it is your life, not theirs. You can date whomever you want because it is your choice. Unless they have this hardcore evidence otherwise as to why you shouldn't be dating him, then they should mind their own business and try to get along with him on your behalf. If he makes your days shine to hell with everyone else. You deserve to be happy, and so does he. Maybe they are just jealous of you, have you considered that? I say to disregard their wishes and do as you will, because in the long run you need to do what is best for the both of you; and that's not to dis-include him in any activities if you love him so dear.

P.S. You haven't seen my hubby, he's a weirdo as well.. haha, shhh it's between me and you.

Date: Jun 15, 2010

Missy,

I know it's been months, I'm so sorry. But if you are still in need of advice smile

I'd say tell her. She is bound to find out sooner or later, and you might as well not get caught in the middle of future rumors.

Date: Jun 24, 2010

Maggie Hi, i like to take pics on facebook and myspace to attract girls but lately they don't seem be attracting girls just guys, gay guys. I don't have anything against gay guys, but why would they assume i am gay just cause i post alot of pics? Do girls like pics of ones fb/mysp? If so what kind of pics can i take to attract girls? This is the first question of many Maggie. Thank you so much for taking the time out to read this. You are really great at this.

Date: Jun 24, 2010

Hey Kobe!

When you got it, you got it. Don't be ashamed that guys are checkin you out, just means that you're more good lookin than you thought. Let me tell you about lots of pics on fb/myspace. If you take a lot, considering you are a guy, and especially shirtless that would be a dead-ringer for me to sense that you are playing for the other team. smile

Why don't you put of more pics of you with your friends (that are not guys), to show you are into the opposite sex. Girls just aren't used to seeing a guy take so many pics unless he's gay or very very "metro." *Coughs, Carr.* biggrin

Date: Jun 24, 2010

Shirtless Pics=Pure awesomeness!

Date: Jun 24, 2010

OK i get what your saying Maggie. How can i make my pics look more manly i guess? I think i have alot to offer a girl and want to really make a good impression. How can i make my pics standout and really say "this guy has alot to offer" you know? Cause i do have alot to give a girl in terms of relationship status. Thanks for answering me so fast.

Date: Jun 25, 2010

Hey Kobe, sorry for the delay. What you need to do is not to try so hard in pics. Don't think of your poses just take them. People can tell when you're trying to hard. Just take a sincere shot. Try to take some with friends as well, to show that you can have a great time. Remember the key is to believe in your self and be confident. If you lack that confidence then you're bound not to succeed in what you want.

Date: Jun 25, 2010

thanks i am going to take some and show you if i find you on facebook

Date: Oct 23, 2010

Hi i am a 27 year old single mother. I was involved with my daughter's father since I was 15 years old. He was my first love, my best friend, my everything. There have been several occassions where he has cheated on me, one with my best friend and one with my daughters teacher. The affair with my best friend was very early on but the teacher affair was about 2 year ago to date. We have always had an on again, off again relationship but with the last affair I decided that I wasnt going to put up with it anymore and we broke up.
A few months ago I met a guy whom I started to date. He is everything I have ever dreamed of. He is so respectful to me and makes me feel absolutely incredible. There is no other feeling like the feeling I have when I am with him. The only problem is hes married and has 8 kids. His wife is across seas in the Navy. She will be home in a few months. He tells me that she has broke his heart, he found love letters she wrote to another guy. He tells me that he loves me and wants to be with me, he just has to handle her in his own way. What gets me though, is that when she calls he still tells her "I love you" when they hang up. He has told me before that on the strength of the kids he would try to make it work but he wont forget what she did to him and he doesnt think they will last long term.

This has taken a huge toll on my heart. I have started to go back to my daughters father for comfort and he has been trying to change and be a better person. He has been so sweet and loving towards me and I really feel like I should stop being so selfish and be back with him because of our daughter. The married man is starting to seem like a fantasy to me. I just dont ever see him leaving his wife, no matter how much he hurts, because they have six kids together. Its starting to effect my every day life. I am so depressed lately and I dont know what to do. I am trying not to make the wrong decision. My heart says to be with my new love, but my head is saying to be with my daughters father, who loves me unconditionally and can father my second child when the time is right. Im so confused! Please help.

Date: Oct 24, 2010

Hi Lucy,

I understand the hurt and the fear of both relationships. The father of your child, and the new love in your life. It's hard to choose because you want to do the right thing, but don't know which is right. Think of all the pros and cons of both situations. Will you be happy back in your baby daddy's life? Will you constantly be thinking what if? Are you really going to trust a person who cheated on you not only once, but twice? In that situation, do not think of your child. Your child will be just fine. A lot of relationships go sour and try to stay intact for the children; when in all reality the parents don't realize that they are actually hurting them by letting them watch every aspect going on in you alls life. They sense it, they know. Do what makes "you" happy. Your child will have a roof over her head, food at the table, love in her home, whether it be with you or with him. She'll be ok. As for the second situation with your new man you also have to think about his wife. Even though he says she's mistreated him you don't know that for sure. And also think of how you felt when you found out your husband cheated on you. How would she feel? Not only that, but he needs to step up to the plate and do something about that situation if he really loves you. My advice, seriously. Don't get upset, this is just my opinion. I say just get away from both of those guys, and concentrate on you. When the right guy comes into your life, he will bring you joy, happiness, and no situation that will put you in a heartbreak. He will only have you in his life and no other. There will be no problems, just a life full of fresh air for you to breathe. Just give it time, don't look, for love will find it's way. You're 27, that's young. You still have a full life ahead of you, live it and love it. :)

Date: Nov 3, 2010

Maggie i am trying to get my boyfriend's parents to like me it is very important. So far no luck cry

any advice on how to finally win them over? Thank you in advance.

Date: Nov 3, 2010

Hey Julez!

No luck with the parents huh? disbelief

Yeah, that happens sometimes in close child/parent bonds. They are afraid to lose them so they dislike what is getting in their way. Just take it day by day. Be yourself in front of them, do not try to be something you are not just to impress them. Treat their son well, so they can eventually realize that he is in good hands. Be polite no matter what the circumstance. Don't let yourself look like the bad guy. Try going to more family functions with your bf so at least you can say you're trying. You can always have a one to one with one of the parents to get your point across on how you feel about this situation. That won't hurt. If they still don't hear you out, then to hell with them. Remember, you're not in a relationship with them so you shouldn't worry what they think. If your bf loves you he will help in that area of liking you. So eventually they will have to like you at one point or another. One thing that I do like to preach about is not to be thinking to much on things. The more you think, the more you make negative things happen. It's like a black hole and you're absorbing all your negative thoughts to your life. Just think positive, and sooner or later things will change for the better. biggrin

Date: Jan 8, 2011

I have a boyfriend who barely talks to me. We never see each other. It's like hes ignoring me for some reason. I don't know what to do. A lot of my friends say that he doesn't like me but I dont believe them. What do you think I should do? Do you think I should dump him?

Date: Jan 10, 2011

Hi Nena!

Ok what I'm about to tell you is probably what you don't want to hear, or that you've heard before. Either confront him about this situation to see what's going on, or just dump his booty. disbelief

Don't waste your time on him if he's not willing to put time in for you. If he really cared for you he'd try to make attempts to see you daily or at least talk to you daily. Treating you like that for no reason makes no sense. I'd say to leave him and find someone who will put forth the effort needed to be in a real relationship. You'll be relieved once you find that special someone.

Date: Jan 19, 2011

Hi there Maggie I just moved to a new school. Since the first day of school I have been feeling a little left out. But on the bright side, I am kind of making more friends. But my problem is, there's this girl in my new school who is a critic. She can't keep things to herself. When you wear something she doesn't like, she starts insulting your outfit in front of your friends and saying thing like, "Take that off! It looks so bad that I don't even wanna look at you!" and it gets really embarassing. What do I do to make her stop?

Date: Jan 24, 2011

My sisters never include me in anything. When our cousins come over they just shut to door in my face and hit me! I always sit alone and depressed. I try to tell my parents that they don't include me but they never do anything. Please help me Maggie

Date: Jan 25, 2011

I recently broke up with my boyfriend but I still really love him him. We went out for nine years and I thought I was in love. He could be so sweet, but then he would turn around and lie to me. I don't know if I made the right choice or not. I'm kind of having a hard time letting go since we shared so much. Should I ask for him back?

Date: Feb 10, 2011

Hi Lonnie,

First off I'm so sorry for the lateness of my answering. My messenger from Canasta didn't inform me I had a new question. lol. Sweetie, 9 years is a long time, but when you're not happy -- you're simply not happy. Go where your heart wants to go. If you really want to get back with him then do it, if you are just used to him being with you then don't. You need to set off and be free, and make yourself happy. Life is to short, live, love, laugh. The way I think is that everything that happens - happens for a reason. Maybe this break-up was to help him realize how he has treated you in the past so he can change his ways. Or it can also be made for you to move on to better things. Love is all around you, just follow your heart, not your instincts. biggrin

Date: Jul 21, 2011

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Date: Mar 15, 2012

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