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Hey MJ,

Not everyone is gifted to hold down the liquor fort. Some act childish, some like meanies, and some just space out (like me ). When you go out try keeping her occupied. For example: You go to a dance, she wants to drink, offer her a dance first and keep her mind off of the liquor. If she mentions the liquor, change the subject quickly to advert her mind else-where. You can buy her the drinks so you can be in charge of how much she drinks. Or you can just do the old fanshioned simple approach and just let her know how you feel about it. I know she just wants to have fun and relax, but there's only so far you can go. Let her know how annoying it is when she is drunk, and for her to try to keep it down a bit. Tell her she can still enjoy herself, but with caution. Let her know that it bothers you, and how it's bothering you. Speakin about the situation may come up with a conclusion that benefits the both of you. Always have a positive attitude when you are trying to converse with someone, they will take you into consideration easier. I know this wasn't much help, but all you can do is plain out just let her know how much of a weirdo she looks like while drinkin. (You should video tape her one of these days and play it back to her so she can see for herself.)




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Abe,

I would seriously reconsider telling the teacher. Although it is the most noble thing to do, you want to keep yourself safe from any potential dangers that lurk ahead. Like being tag teamed by your former friends for telling the teacher. To each their own, just let them be. Teenagers will be teenagers and we can't stop that. One way or another they will get caught or pay for their actions. Remember, Karma is a "B" word. What goes around, comes around. Just stay cool, and don' t worry about it, maybe they won't even go through with it. But if it really bothers you, you can give a hint to your local police station about that plan, so they can keep a watch on that house for you. Just let them know what you heard, where the house is at, and about the time frame they will be doin it. Only if it's bother you, so that way you remain annonymous and no one will know that you reported them. Again, don't pay attention, go on with your life, and don't worry what those losers are doing. You're not part of them, and that's a good choice you made.

My best friend has been dating this guy for about three years. At the very beginning of their relationship, he and I spent an evening together. We almost ended up in bed but we both realized in time that it wasn't the right thing to do.

I never told my friend about this little moment, and now they are happy and in love. They are planning their wedding for this autumn. I feel that this past event is keeping me from being completely open with her. It was a long time ago and I don't even know if it would really matter to her now, but I can't stop thinking about it. 

I don't want to ruin her relationship or our friendship.  Should I tell her?

Maggie hello ,I am a 27-year-old man interested in a woman at work. We are almost the same age and have an excellent work relationship. Due to sexual harassment laws and other workplace laws, it is difficult to ask someone out at work. How can I do this without risking my job?

Hi Mr. Confused Guy,

Honestly do you really take asking someone on a date a form of sexual harassment? I wouldn't, unless you do it in a lewd manner. As for your work place rules and regulations I am not sure how it works there. Did you know that most relationships start at work place environments? If you have an excellent work relationship with this girl it shouldn't be that hard to just ask her to dinner (get her number for future use), or for a drink one day. I wouldn't see how that would hurt any or be illegal in the work place. While you get her to say yes, and get her alone at dinner or where ever then I say you can start forming a different sort of relationship with her in case you are afraid to do it at work. You can also make it seem like a group thing and invite others from work as well to start off with. Hope things go great, do not fear askin, if you are afraid it is against the rules, ask your boss first. I dont' know how your relationship is with him/her, but i know i can talk to mine about anything and everything.

Maggie hi, my name is Chris and I have a question regarding men's hairstyles. I am balding and decided four years ago to shave my head completely bald for a cleaner look. I received a lot of positive attention from women at the time.However, over the last year or so I have noticed more men with longer hair and women paying less attention to bald-headed men. Are bald-headed men out and longhaired guys in? Thanks

He does not understand why we broke up and thinks there is another guy or that I am not interested in guys. I saw him at McDonald's the other day when I was with friends and he just turned and left. I just want to be his friend.

What if he messes his life up or does something stupid because of me? I asked him one day if he would ever hurt himself after we broke up and he said probably if nothing was going right in his life. Sometimes I wish that I had never gone out with him. But this is just another thing in life to learn from, right? Should i try to be his friend or should i just let it be?

I want to get a tattoo, but worry guys will think i am weird. What do you think about girls with them, and do you think guys will look at me strange? Thanks Maggie i love reading everything you write.

This past weekend, my boyfriend went to a bachelor's party. There were dancers there, of course. Drunk, he called me and asked me to pick him up. He had a couple of bills folded in his shirt pocket so I know he gave the dancers money.

I havent said anything about that evening, but I did not like the drinking or the dancers. Is there anything I should do or say now? He did apologize because his hangover prevented us from doing some planned activities the next day. Am I insecure or normal?Thanks Maggie can't wait for your response, thanks in advance.