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Date: Feb 29, 2008

RE: Ask Maggie!

Date: Feb 29, 2008

Maggie i am in love with 2 girls, how do i pick one to stay with? I need some serious help here

Date: Feb 29, 2008

Hey REV,

Two girls huh? Why don't you put together a Pro's and Con's list. See which one has more potential to stay with you longer. Which one makes you more happy and comfortable? Which one do you see your self with for the rest of your life? Which one is more reliable? Don't say both, well I guess unless you move to Utah. Hehe, just kiddin. And make sure what you are feeling for both is really love and not just a strong liking. Because how can you love someone so much, but feel the same about another? Apparently you don't love the 1st one as much as you thought you did. Cause if you did you wouldn't be in love with another. Right? Need less to say, even look towards another. So maybe the first girl is the one you really just like a lot, and the second is the one you're fallin for. Think about it, put together that list of goods, and bads. See which one has the most of each, and base it upon there. Unless you just wanna go with what your heart tells you. And remember to make a good choice cause once one's gone, she's gone.

Date: Mar 3, 2008

Hi Maggie just stopping by to say hi and i love the colum!

Date: Mar 5, 2008

Maggie hi, i want to get the attention of this girl i see working out at my gym. Any tips on how to do it without looking strange? Thanks in advance.

Date: Mar 5, 2008

Hi Trini,

So I guess flexin in front of her is out of the question. LOL. If you really like her try making eye contact until she looks back. Don't be starrin like you've never seen a girl before either, then she'll really think you are weird. Once eye contact is there, look away, pretend that you're just into your workout. Give it a lil more time then go up to her and start a conversation. The easiest way to start one is by introducing yourself first. Then you can go into whatever you want, no guy convo' either. Ask her about her workout. Give her compliments on her workouts. Ask her about herself. Then go into the occassional, "you have such a beautiful smile." That always gets me. Make her feel comfortable in the conversation, don't come on too strong. If you do not want to make convo' yet, i advise you to work out near her more often. Show off. Talk to friends in front of her to catch her attention. Make more eye contact more often. Smile at her. Say hello when you see her. Little things like that take you a long way. I probably didn't help that much, but hopefully this helped a bit.

Date: Mar 5, 2008

Thanks Maggie, i will try what you said and let you know how things work out. Thanks once again.

Date: Mar 10, 2008

Maggie what's a good Easter gift for a girl?

Date: Mar 11, 2008

Good question by Romeo, but since i am a girl what's a good gift for easter for a guy?

Date: Mar 12, 2008

ROMEO & BRIANNA,

Hi, the one thing Carr and I do every Easter is put baskets together for one another. We each put things that the other has interest in, inside the basket. For example, for Carr I usually buy him his favorite snacks, magazine, axe body spray, and a hat or a movie. For me, I usually get my favorite treats and jewlery. But just combine diff lil things that they like. Like what snacks they like, what do they use, do they use body spray, cologne, facial products, lotions, tooth paste, jewlery, hats, clothes, music, movies. Don't worry about what you put in there. Just as long as they can use it, and if you have the right likings of that person. Well good luck! And have a great Easter.

-- Edited by Carlos at 10:15, 2008-03-12

Date: Mar 14, 2008

Hi Maggie just want to say your doing a great job

Date: Mar 20, 2008

Hi Maggie i love your colum

Date: Mar 25, 2008

Maggie hi, my daughter is only 8 and already starting to show signs of being a troublemaker in school. Any ideas how to change her ways before she gets older or before the problem ges worse?

Date: Mar 25, 2008

Great colum Maggie i love reading.

Date: Mar 25, 2008

Thanks to all of you who read this column. It is a great pleasure hearing how much one enjoys reading it.

Hello JL,

I'm sorry to hear about this. You need to bring on more discipline to your child when a situation comes up. Don't be afraid. I mean, not by spanking or spraying her with a high pressure hose or anything, but make your own "if you aren't good" rules. Sit her down and ask her if there is anything bothering her. Most of the time when children misbehave it is because of a something that triggers it. For example: A divorce, if you recently went through a divorce, she is probly goin through a lot, and doesn't know how to manage with out acting out for attention. Or maybe something or someone is bothering her at school, and maybe her behavior is a way of crying out for help. She is 8 years old, by now she does know what is goin on around her. Ask her why she is acting out in such a manner, and if she refuses to answer, do not ignore the issue. Try taking her to a counsler or child psychiatrist. I wouldn't worry so much, it could be just a phase she is going through, just teach her right from wrong, give her examples of what will happen if she keeps it up; just to scare her a bit to think. My mother had us very disiplined, we were so afraid to do anything wrong; because the way she gave us "the look" scarred the living day light out of us. She never raised a hand at us, the raising of the voice was enough. But good luck with this situation, and remember everything gets worse before it gets better.

Date: Mar 25, 2008

Hey Maggie my girl freind thinks that i like another girl but i realy love her and would never hurt her but what should i do to show her that she is the only one for me

Date: Mar 25, 2008

Hi Randy,

Why would that even cross her mind. Maybe she is just not that confident in herself. Try showing her some more love and effection. Pay more attention to her, spend more time together, take her out more, do lil things that she'll appreciate, like buying her a rose unexpectedly. Lil things like that will help boost her self esteem. But you may also want to try talking to her. Talking always helps. Tell her how you feel about her, and ask her why she even thinks that, so that way you can explain that you don't care for anyone else. Well hope all goes well.

Date: Mar 26, 2008

Maggie hi, i have a bf but i am starting to have feelings again for someone i used to like what do i do?

Date: Mar 26, 2008

JSK,

I'm ganna tell you something that you're probly ganna think I got from a Disney movie. You need to follow your heart. If you are not happy with your current bf, then I'd advise you to do something about that now before it is to late into the relationship. If you are happy but still have feelings for this other guy then you really have to sit and come to conclusions with your self. Put together some pros and cons of each, tally them up and see what the out come is. From that you'll see who really makes you happy. If you really want to start talkin to your crush, I would strongly advise you to find out for sure if he feels the same about you. So that way you won't do anything dumb for nothin. I really can't help much with this one, you're on your own. You really need to follow what your heart or instinct is telling you, and don't hold back. Things happen for reasons, and as of right now, you're in the middle of this cycle. I wish you the best, and remember not to fear the outcome, cause there are much more better things to come in the future. Live life to it's fullest.

Date: Mar 27, 2008

Thanks Maggie

Date: Mar 31, 2008

Hi Maggie, i have a problem. I think my boyfriend and my bestfriend are seeing each other. Any advice on how i can find out if they are?

Date: Mar 31, 2008

Hi Kelly Ann,

First off, if your best friend would ever do that to you, that is not a friend at all. You should just cut to the chase and ask them honestly. Because if you are there trying to spy and discover if they are, you're mind is ganna go crazy, and things will get worse and out of hand. But if you wanna go the secretive way here's some signs of a cheating boyfriend:

1. Lack of intimacy. This doesnt always have to be in the form of sex. It can be a decline of touching, cuddling, holding hands or kissing.

2. He cheated on his old girlfriends. If you can talk to some of his old girlfriends, by all means, do it. However, make sure to ask his ex-girlfriends in a kind and calm manner so they do not become defensive. A cheating boyfriend will usually repeat their behavior with their next girlfriend.

3. He avoids you. A big sign of a cheating boyfriend is when he makes up all sorts of excuses as to why he cant be with you because hes spending time with his other girlfriend. If he has to work late, stay after school, is always with his friends or co-workers more than usual, these could be the excuses your boyfriend is using to cover up his cheating ways.

4. He never answers his cell phone around you. A way to tell if your boyfriend is cheating is if he always turns his ringer off around you or walks out of hearing distance from you. These are big red flags he may be cheating. If he receives calls at odd hours or speaks on the phone in a strange manner could also be signs he is cheating.

5. He is irritable or criticizes you more. If your boyfriends behavior suddenly changes, there is a possibility that he may be finding fault with you in order to justify his cheating in his mind. That way your cheating boyfriend can say you drove him away because of your supposed faults. The opposite of this behavior is being overly nice, giving gifts and being lovey-dovey because he wants to keep his cake (you) and eat it too (his other girlfriend).

I wouldn't worry so much, if they are doing that behind your back you do not need people like that in your life. Suck it up and move on, there are bigger and better things out there. You never know, maybe their just friends, so try not to jump to conclusions until you get the facts.

Date: Apr 5, 2008

Maggie my 80 year old grandfather's bday is next week what do i get for him?

Date: Apr 7, 2008

Hi Jess,

80 yrs. huh. LOL, dang, you've stumped me. What do 80 yr olds use, besides......well 80 yr old stuff. Why dont' you buy him cologne. How about a body massager, you know how they're always complaining that their bones are aching. (Wait a minute, I do that alot) How about slippers, socks, or a watch. I dont' know! LOL, but in all honesty, your best bet will be buyin or makin him a cake, or sweets. Hopefully he's not diabetic. Cake is great, no one can say no to cake. This will be a lot easier knowing that at least he's ganna eat it. Because if you buy him something that he doesn't need, then it's a waste of money. Good luck!

Date: Apr 11, 2008

Maggie i like this guy but he has a gf, problem is i see him often and i think he is interested in me too. What do i do

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Date: Apr 14, 2008

Maggie hi, i just wanted to ask what does a girl dig more, good looks, or a great sense of humor? I am funny, and also funny looking lol. I hope girls like me for my personality.

Date: Apr 14, 2008

RE: Erica

I'd seriously stay clear from trouble. If he has a girl friend let him be. If he wants to be all chiflado, let him get someone else in trouble. If you start talking with him and suddenly get these butterfly feelings and start liking him more and more you are only putting yourself in a position where you will end up miserable. Just think about it, what if it were you that was his girlfriend. And a girl comes along and ruins that relationship, how would you feel about that. Think about others as well as yourself. I don' t think you wanna end up that way. Let life run it's course, the right guy is out there, just give him time. But if you really want to find out things about him why don't you strike up a conversation about his gf. Ask him questions like how long have you all been together, how's the relationship going, simple things, Kinda ask him like you have no interest in him. You can tell in his voice and the way he answers how he feels about her. It's human nature to flirt. Especially for guys. So watch out on that one as well. I know I probly didn't help much, but go with your gutt feeling. If you find it is wrong stay clear, if you think it's right well by all means go for it.

Date: Apr 14, 2008

RE: Andy

Hi, have you ever heard the quote, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder," ? It depends on the girl. Some are really materialistic, they have to have the best of it. While some just go for personality and go for the normal types. I wouldn't change anything about yourself, to one you might seem funny looking, but to another you might seem like the most handsomest guy around. The right one is out there, just don't give up lookin. Kinda like a treasure hunt. LOL. I personally would go for personality, but if they aren't attractive to me, then I'd be picky on looks. But be yourself. And remember good things happen for those who wait.

Date: Apr 18, 2008

Hi Maggie, i am new in a town and want to meet new people how do i do this without seeming too creepy?

Date: Apr 23, 2008

Jake just act normal, and be yourself. Try to find people that have similar interests. Like perhaps go to a sports bar and watch a game and cheer for a favorite team. You are sure to meet other fans like yourself,and that is an easy way to meet friends. Another place might be a gym or something. Bottom line is try to go somewhere where people that share similar interests will be. It makes it easier to strike up a conversation without seeming like a weirdo.

Date: Apr 29, 2008

Maggie hello, i am a high school senior and i am having trouble picking a college to go to. Any ideas how to narrow down my options?

Date: Apr 29, 2008

Hi Ruben,

Headin to college is one of your biggest events of your life. Narrow it down by choosing the schools in which have most interest towards you. What is it that you plan on goin for? Most colleges are ranked according to the most popular majors. Like here in Kingsville @ T.A.M.U.K. we are best known for our engineering, football, and agriculture. Search online for college reviews. Here's a good site to start [url=http://collegesearch.collegeboard.com/search/index.jsp], it has a type of college match maker I used to play with before I went to college. It will help you narrow it down. I can't really help narrow down your search personally because I don't know your interests, but try to go for one that you have interest in, not just because. Sorry I didn't help much but try that site, it's pretty cool. Oh, and good luck.

Date: May 1, 2008

Maggie i went out with this girl and our first date was a nightmare. I got drunk and made a fool out of myself. I really like this girl want another chance please help

Date: May 1, 2008

Pancho, Pancho, Pancho de la rancho! LOL.

Whatcha waitin for? Go call her! They say that the first date will leave an impression. So, you messed up. Well ask for a "first" date again. Tell her you wanna try it again and without being a drunk. Do something more out there. Take her on a picnic, or to a fancy restaurant instead of a bar or anywhere where there is alcohol. Make her feel like you are actually enjoying it. And show her the real side of you. Don't worry if she doesn't want a do over. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Things happen for reasons and remember that. So go get -em tiger, and this time don't mess it up. :)

Date: May 12, 2008

Maggie, if i am a club is it ok to send a girl i think is cute a drink or is it too weird?